'Feelings' is the universal language. Many people think that it is 'experiences' that creates a bond between people making us the same, but it is 'feelings' that makes us the same.

As a unique individual, we experience a situation perhaps similar to, but not exactly like Jane or John. That is what makes us unique. Our likeness, our bonding comes from the feelings that we feel propagated by similar situations.

E.g. A young teen is heartbroken because her boyfriend 'dumped' her. We cannot know 'exactly' how she feels because her feelings are intertwined with her personal experiences shared with her boyfriend. BUT, we know the feeling of being heartbroken, and therefore we bond through that feeling and understand her to a degree.

Many people seek power but go to great lengths to 'shut off' feelings because they have been hurt and don't wish to be hurt again. Little do they realize that the power they seek comes through the complexities of the language of feelings.

To seek true, lasting power through peace, one must explore and understand how they feel about themselves, about various situations, people, and life in general. We must embrace our feelings, both hurtful and happy, and learn how to move on to the next feeling so that one feeling does not become intense enough to devastate us, or destroy us. Both positive and negative feelings can destroy if taken in too large a dose. Look around you to find examples of this.

There are four main ways of communicating with each other. .
1. Feeling - The Feeler - the square body frame, (no waist)
2. Seeing - The Visionary - the hourglass body frame.
3. Knowing - The Prophet - the pare shaped body, smaller top than bottom
4. Understanding - The Intuitive - the pencil shape, no waist, and skinny.

Each person has all four communicating method, but they are arranged in different orders. Compare to the Zodiac signs. All Aries are not alike because their planets were not in the same position in the sky at the time of birth. Our communicating methods are the same.

When communicating with a Visionary, we switch to our Visionary mode. The same with the other modes. If a person is 'out-of-balance' in one of the communicating modes, they will not be able to communicate effectively with another person of the mode as their means of communication.

For example:
If Randy is a Feeler, but he has suffered many hurts and has shut down his feeling part so that he won't be hurt any more, then he can not communicate effectively through his feeling part. If he tries to communicate with another person with feeling first, then he will have problems making himself understood.

The biggest problem between people is a lack of communication, so it would stand to reason that a person should try to keep themselves balanced in all of the communicating methods, or modes.

If we can 'see', 'understand', 'know', or 'feel' that we mirror parts of ourselves back out to others, and they to us, then we can use this powerful tool to learn more about ourselves.

For example:
Little Johnny mimics his father's actions, but the father doesn't see this and becomes angry with his son for doing exact what he himself did.

Johnny loves his father and wants to be like him and becomes confused when he is disciplined by his father for acting just like him. If Johnny's father understood the mirroring technique, then he could take a moment to reflect and 'see' that Johnny is in fact mimicking his actions, but, he doesn't like those actions when he sees his son doing them. If Johnny's father understands the mirror technique, then he could make the corrections within himself, changing what he doesn't like. By correcting his own undesirable actions, he leads the way for his son to correct his actions, because Johnny will mimic his father.

Therefore, if we have a complaint with the way someone is acting, we should immediately apply the mirroring technique. Not always by changing our own actions, will the other person change theirs right away, Actions become habits and habits are sometimes difficult to change. Becoming aware of the undesirable habit is the first step. Then we can 're-program' the habit to be what we want it to be.

Many parents interrupt their friends when they are talking, but become very annoyed and upset with their children for doing the same thing. If they apply the mirror technique, then they will not have a child who interrupts.

Use your imagination and look for ways that you can apply this mirroring technique. It is a very useful way of understanding yourself and becoming the best that you can be. Make a game out of it, the mirroring technique can an enormous amount of fun and very satisfying too. You will be pleasantly surprised at the many rewards that befall you for doing this technique.
Have fun - live, laugh, love and be merry.
Love and Peace, Geraldine

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